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An Adult Advent

11/25/2020

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When I was young the liturgical season of Advent played a big role in my formative liturgical consciousness. It was, after all, the countdown to Christmas and the arrival of Santa down the chimney, that time when reasonably good behavior at home held promise to a glorious Christmas morning. Advent was the season of judgment in Santa’s allotment of toys. [Perhaps therefore the Church identifies Advent as a penitential season.] Later, as I matured out of such childhood musings, I learned to appreciate Advent as a season that begins on Thanksgiving weekend with the annual Ohio State-Michigan college football finale. Wherever you stand on the Advent consciousness meter, be reminded that the season starts next week. Covid or not, the Church calendar remains the same. The First Sunday of Advent marks the beginning of the Church calendar every year. The vestments next weekend will be purple.
 
I am writing this on November 23, the day after the celebration of “The Solemnity of Our Lord Jesus Christ, King of the Universe,” the final Sunday of this liturgical worship year. For much of my adult life this observance had the simpler title of “Christ the King.” All three annual cycles of Sunday readings end with a description of the last times, the Second Coming of Christ, and focus upon the eternal destiny of every human. In the 1970 revision of the missal, the feast of Christ the King was transferred from late October to the end of the liturgical year in late November, and paired with the year’s final Sunday, popularly called “Last Judgment Sunday” in the old days. Sunday’s scripture readings were all apocalyptic or future oriented, as are the readings for this feast in Cycle B [St. Mark] and Cycle C [St. Luke] years.
 
For years I have heard preachers deliver essentially the same sermon on Christ the King: Jesus is not like other kings. My pastor put it this way when he said that “Jesus was not the warrior people were hoping for.” That interpretation is as old as the days the first editions of the Gospels were passed along to the early Christian assemblies around the Mediterranean. It is easy to take away from this interpretation that Jesus was a weaker king here on earth than the evil kings and princes of this world, but that at some distant point in the future Jesus would return from a spiritual world and have the last laugh.
 
Yesterday’s Gospel from Matthew depicts the coming of the Son of Man at the end of time, but this figure—whether intended to represent Jesus himself or his alter ego, the Son of Man—is not laughing. As Matthew puts it, "When the Son of Man comes in his glory, and all the angels with him, he will sit upon his glorious throne, and all the nations will be assembled before him. And he will separate them one from another, as a shepherd separates the sheep from the goats.” If anything, the judge described here at the end of time will do precisely what kings and princes have always done, exercise power by the measure of loyalty to what the king holds dear in his wisdom and vision. In our case here, the king holds the alleviation of hunger, the welcoming of isolated foreign immigrants, the clothing and housing of the poorest, and the fair, humane treatment of the sick and prisoners as the hallmarks of his kingdom, and we will be judged on this parameter of attitude and behavior. Citizens of this kingdom who do not share the intentions of the king will hear: “Depart from me, you accursed, into the eternal fire prepared for the devil and his angels.” This scenario sounds very much like the exercise of power earthly kings, which might be what St. Matthew has been trying to tell us over these many centuries.
 
Christianity, from its earliest Jewish roots, has been a religion for grown-ups. The famous German Lutheran minister Dietrich Bonhoeffer, who was executed by the Nazis for an assassination attempt on Hitler, famously coined the expression “cheap grace” to describe the staid mediocrity of the mainstream churches. He wrote: “Cheap grace is the preaching of forgiveness without requiring repentance, baptism without church discipline, communion without confession, absolution without personal confession. Cheap grace is grace without discipleship, grace without the cross, grace without Jesus Christ.”

As we begin the observance of the Advent and Christmas seasons next weekend, it is critical to remember that these seasons are not the trail to Bethlehem but the road to Calvary. In 1978 the American biblical scholar Father Raymond Brown composed An Adult Christ at Christmas, a brief but informative collection of essays for adults that explains the Christmas narratives as predictive narratives of Christ’s passion. I will be describing Father Brown’s text in future posts, but for the moment let it suffice to say that he explains in his writing the methodology of unpacking the “Infancy Narratives” or the Advent-Christmas Gospel texts. From a “purely historical” perspective we know nothing of Christ’s birth, but thanks to Father Brown and the work of biblical scholars dating to the 1700’s we have a better understanding of what God intended in the revelation of these texts.

The danger of Advent is our tendency to recast it for children, both in catechetical style and preaching emphasis. As grown-ups, we should be awaiting a powerful appearance from God who comes to define and transform us. Our tendency, of course, is to join the children in awaiting a St. Nick figure who, at the end of the day, tears up our debit sheet and showers us with undeserved presents. In St. Mark’s Gospel, the text for Year B, Jesus preaches that the true disciple is one who takes up a cross and follows him. Our observance of Advent must reflect the One we await.
 
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What the World Series and the Church Have in Common

10/21/2020

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​Tonight [Tuesday] the 116th World Series begins, pitting our local Tampa Bay Rays against the Los Angeles Dodgers, all four to seven games to be played in isolation in Texas. I started watching the Series with devotion in 1957, viewing the New York Yankees-Milwaukee [now Atlanta] Braves play the full seven game limit and Lew Burdette pitch three victories in seven games. Had I started a year earlier, 1956, I could have seen Yankee Don Larsen’s perfect game, where he retired all 27 Brooklyn Dodger batters in a row. In my twenties I did see [and gnashed my teeth at] the worst bad luck any first baseman could experience--Bill Buckner’s error that cost the Red Sox the 1986 World Series.

I have read my share of baseball books over the years. I discovered that before the late 1960’s baseball was not player friendly. Players could not negotiate with other teams under a Major League arrangement called “the reserve clause,” which meant that if you started your career with the St. Louis Browns, you had to stay with them till they traded you or you died. You had little leverage in salary negotiations. Perhaps best known to most Americans is the systematic exclusion of persons of color from major league rosters; not until 1959 did every team in the majors carry at least one person of color on its active roster.  Moreover, a fair number of baseball players themselves over the past 115 years have not been “gentlemen” either. Pete Rose and the Chicago Black Sox, the antisocial behaviors of stars like Joe DiMaggio and Ted Williams, alcohol abuse which eventually killed Mickey Mantle and Billy Martin, not to mention so many lesser-known players. Sexual mayhem on road trips.

But we still love the game, or at least care enough to put some World Series money down with our bookies. One reason, to be sure, is historical continuity. There are six current major league teams which have never won a World Series—and one of them [Tampa] is playing tonight. There is at least a 50-50 chance that the Rays will win their first World Series. It is no lie to say that in baseball you may always see something that has never happened before. Just last week, in the National League Pennant Series, the Braves ran themselves into a head-scratching double play. On the other hand, some of the greatest plays in history have occurred under the glare of international attention. My personal favorite was Derek Jeter’s amazing flip to home plate some years ago.

Perhaps this is a stretch, but organized baseball is a key to understanding the Church, or at least to our participation in the Church. All of the polling in recent times tells us that Catholics are not exactly rabid about going to Church every Sunday; there is similarity with baseball fans who also tend to shun portions of the season in attendance or on local TV, particularly in April. I am thinking back to a 2007 game in Camden Yards [Baltimore] during an NCEA convention there. I had wanted to see a young pitcher with Detroit, Justin Verlander. Young Justin had the good sense to come in out of the sleet in the seventh inning…and the game went on and on into extra inning. We lasted till the eleventh inning…and there sure were not many cars in the parking lot. But when the pennant chases and the weather heat up, the seats fill up, just as they do in Catholic Churches during Lent and Easter.   

Church and Major League Baseball both have solemn code books. MLB has its frequently revised Rule Book, while Catholics depend upon the Code of Canon Law, which was revised only twice in the twentieth century [1917 and 1983]. But both institutions also have “local codes.” In baseball this would be the ballpark itself. At the beginning of a major league game the umpires go over the “ground rules” with each team captain. No two baseball parks are exactly alike. The most famous local twist to a park may be Boston’s Fenway Park, with its infamous “Green Monster” wall in left field. Teams have been known to bring fences closer to the batter to help the hitter, or further out to help the pitcher, though not during a game.

Along the same lines, Catholic bishops, the proprietors of their dioceses, can set laws and standards as they see fit and within universal Canon Law. For example, in 2001 Margaret and I never got to attend the Mass of the Feast of the Ascension. In Orlando, the bishops have transferred it to the Seventh Sunday of Easter, which Church law permits. But we flew to Boston and discovered that there the Mass of Obligation for the Ascension was never changed from its dating of forty days after the Resurrection. Fortunately, we had dinner with a distinguished Boston College theologian who assured us that our souls were safe for the moment, anyway.

Catholics and baseball fans both celebrate their histories, though Catholics have been doing it longer. A few years ago, I hiked through a muddy meadow to come upon St. Brendan’s Well, on Valencia Island on the West Coast of Ireland. Legend has it that St. Brendan traveled to this site to baptize a dying pagan. The “well” is a small hole with a stone marker—no chapel or structure anywhere—and yet there were dozens of flowers and religious items left at the site by devout Catholic tourists. Catholics, particularly those troubled by our chaotic times, take a special comfort from the words of Jesus that he would always be with us, till the end of the world, and we mark the world today with sacred sites where people of like spirit can come together to celebrate a graced humanity. I grew up attending baseball games in Buffalo in the International League, and it always seemed that the folks seated around you were “your friends” at least for nine innings. A church and a ballpark are not so different in that sense. Just be nice in the parking lot!
 
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Covid-19 is a True Unknown for the Church's Future-3

6/27/2020

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Covid-19 new cases are spiking in about half of the United States. Here in “hot-spot Florida” there is anger and discouragement over the fact we may have “opened” too soon. China is experiencing local flare-ups in several of its markets in large cities. Unemployment in the United States sits at Depression era levels. Another government stimulus for American workers appears to be some ways off, according to this discussion of possibilities from Forbes on June 13. Depending upon which think tank you subscribe to, the consensus seems to be that of those across the country who are currently unemployed, 50% of them will discover that their jobs have been permanently eliminated.

How does this upheaval impact the many Catholic parishes across the United States? The best word at this juncture may be “unevenly,” since there was significant imbalance of resources among parishes and dioceses before the Covid-19 reached the American shore not to mention various spiritualities and priorities. One of our readers offered the thought that we might see the end of the “parish structure” during this time. I am not quite that pessimistic; but my gut tells me there may be an exodus toward smallness. I have seen small churches in economically challenged circumstances function and even thrive, as in the small shark-hunting coastal village of Saliverry, Peru in 2014. In Saliverry we unexpectedly attended a family memorial Mass and the folks came over to thank us for coming! Meanwhile, outside the same church, the CYO or teen group, which identified themselves as young missionaries, was packing food to take to poor parishioners. [Later, when we were surrounded by a “tough” group of older teens near the waterfront, I whispered to Margaret in English, “Maybe it’s more teen missionaries.”]

The most urgent question across the board—aside from sacramental practice-- is survival of diocesan and parish structure in the sense of protecting long-time competent employees and continuing the essentials of the Catholic mission. Naturally, our thoughts turn immediately to cash flow since our Church employees have families to feed and there are thousands upon thousands of citizens who would literally starve without parish food outreach and the works of Catholic Charities. This was true long before the virus. I counsel on Fridays from a church site which is feeding hundreds of families every other week. If we have learned anything from Covid-19, it is that bull markets on Wall Street do not translate into the everyday life of modest and low-income Americans. 
 
As I posted a few days ago, there is not much journalistic reporting on the current fiscal condition of the U.S. Church. With the Orlando, FL, region Covid-19 cases spiking dramatically, most media coverage here is devoted to public safety, and to the “I can’t breathe” memorials and protests. In truth, current Church financial condition are hard to gauge, in part because we have no idea how long the virus will last. Josephine Everly of the [Catholic] Leadership Conference believes that “it will be 18 to 24 months before parishes, schools and other Catholic institutions see a return to normal levels of giving.”

The assumption here is that there will be a return to normal. I told my friends some months ago that some semblance of a return to modest church attendance will not be determined by either the Church or the State: it will happen when mothers feel safe bringing their children into enclosed populated spaces, and it won’t happen one day sooner. In other words, no routine till a safe virus is developed and the country is vaccinated. I caught an article in the colorful Patheos journal that questioned whether most Catholics would come back at all, and another along the same lines in The Catholic Thing.

Another factor of the post-Corona Church is the resolution of outstanding abuse claims and diocesan bankruptcies, which of course dates back prior to Covid-19 in most cases. Since I last posted five days ago, the dioceses of St. Cloud, Minnesota, and Rockville Center, Long Island, have declared bankruptcy. [A curious point: five of the six dioceses in Minnesota have declared bankruptcy; three of eight in New York State.] There are now about 25 [of 185] dioceses in bankruptcy across the country. If I were a member of a diocese in financial limbo, and especially an employee or a parent with children in the parish school, I would want at least some indication from the chancery and the parishes about the outlook for the immediate future. Like most businesses in trouble, churches tend to lead with good news, tenuous as it may be. Several diocesan websites are posting letters to the effect that everything will be done to bring all school children on campus. [If I can brag on my own diocese, our parents will have the choice of classroom or on-line. This is an inspired judgment call; would you lay down bets for a major sports team scheduled to play in August?]  

I learned from a former student this week that his parish’s director of adult faith formation was dismissed. My mind jumps to several conclusions:  that the parish in question is in financial hot water, that the ministry of adult formation is sitting dormant, and quite likely the parish did not file for federal salary protection, unlike 13,000 parishes across the country. I might be stone cold wrong, but if I belonged to that parish, I would inquire about whether everything is being done to retain good lay ministers and teachers. I have read plenty of on-line church bulletins from around the country that encourage the faithful to use EFT for Offertory giving. But I have yet to see any pastor admit that parish finances may make it necessary to eliminate the following positions [fill in the blanks].

I am going to move to different streams for an educational entry or two and pick up this stream late next week. I hope to have a book review and a few other entries before returning to Covid-19. I am afraid that is not going away any time fast. 

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How Covid-19 Is Reshaping the American Church-2

6/17/2020

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I wrote at some length in the first installment about the pressure of keeping Catholic churches and schools operating during and after the Corona virus and its financial pressures. I was prompted to research this when a Catholic school in my own diocese was closed on May 20, a rare occurrence [see previous post below.] I am grateful for several friends who filled me in some details, which not surprisingly center around financial problems and several years of confusion among parishioners and school parents how acute the problems were. I will return to this below.

However, since the last post, another closure was brought to my attention by a regular reader and longtime friend from seminary days; this closing occurred in the Paterson, NJ, Diocese. This particular parish is staffed by the Franciscan Friars of the East Coast Province to which I belonged for twenty years. I have two links to the North Jersey news site, story 1 and story 2. The second link is intriguing because after the closing, the Franciscan pastor came under significant fire, with the parents demanding a full audit of the parish and school financial records for the past several years. This audit is currently in process; I did not get the impression that the audit would save the school, but rather it may serve as a useful lesson to this and other parishes about recognizing danger signals in monetary and enrollment matters. It also struck me that regular such audits would probably be more useful on a periodic basis for parishes planning long range viability, particularly parishes with schools. Typically, an outside audit is undertaken, and its results made public before capital campaigns, for example, where soliciting large gifts is indispensable.

There are several things in common between the Paterson, New Jersey, closing and the Lakeland, Florida school closing I described in the last post. In both cases [1] parents described themselves in social media and local news outlets as being shocked and uninformed; [2] student enrollment was modest at best, perhaps around 200 and falling; [3] well-meaning parishioners did not have a gut sense of how expensive a school is; [4] the local communities seemed disengaged from the national challenges to Catholic education across the country, too parochial, if you will: and [5] there was an expectation of emergency financial assistance from their respective dioceses.    
 
I posted a few days ago that Bishop David Zubik of Pittsburg was leading his diocese in a review of diocesan school operations with an eye toward insuring that all Catholic schools were solvent and self-supporting. Apparently, the impact of Covid-19 accelerated the urgency of his task force, and yesterday, between my last post and this one, Bishop Zubik closed two schools and consolidated two others. The diocese’s website also addresses long range planning to avoid crisis closings in the future: “The diocese is also announcing that as of July 1, 2020, South Regional Catholic Elementary School, Inc. will be formally established, with a governing board of clergy and lay leaders representing each of the parishes and parish groupings in the region.  The governing board will be responsible for strategic planning and ensuring that diocesan Catholic schools are properly resourced and sustainable for generations to come. The schools will be supported by a regional office headed by a regional administrator responsible for overseeing the school programs.” There is no mention of fiscal support from the Pittsburgh diocese, but rather, something akin to an “early warning system.” It is possible that such a board could recommend capital campaigns for endowments for tuition relief assistance, though by Canon Law a diocese is a corporation sole, i.e., it is owned and managed by one person, the bishop, who can change plans and arrangements put in place by his predecessors.

Are Dioceses insensitive to the needs of local churches, something I hear far too often? Dioceses are expensive to operate. My home diocese was nationally recognized last year for its detailed audit reports and transparency to its members. If you dare, you can review Orlando’s 2019 audit report. It is easily accessible on the diocese’s webpage. I have read it several times, including this morning, and I finally decided to eventually walk it over to a true professional soon to understand the terms and categories. As complicated as an audit is, to make it publicly available is an excellent step in the right direction for all dioceses in the United States, where trust has been eroded by the child abuse scandal and its fiscal costs, as well as the closings of schools and parishes around the country.

If you have never seen a diocesan spreadsheet, the size of the numbers is misleading. The trick is understanding that so much of the money is spoken for. Under previous bishops this diocese extended money in various ways for building projects, caught up in the wave before the Great Recession. For example, Orlando has about $70 million in bond obligations extending into 2034, as well as extensive loans outstanding to various parishes and institutions. The diocese is self-insured and carries a portion of that cost with its employees. The audit shows that about half of the $50 million in bequests [from wills and independent gifts] on the books is restricted to specific institutions, and in theory at least, cannot be transferred to general operations. The report shows proceeds from investments, so to some degree any diocese is subject to the market, depending upon exposure. The important thing to take away from any diocesan report is that most expenses are not the sort that become “instantly liquid” in a crisis for local bailouts. Hence there is very little that can be done when the churches and schools are closed and collections and tuitions dip, as many continue to be with Covid-19 threat.

The day to day office operations of the diocesan mission are funded in part by the annual diocesan appeal, called by different names. Our Bishop’s Appeal here was conducted just before the lockdown; it remains to be seen how the virus impacted the campaign. This annual campaign is conducted in a more straightforward fashion than years ago when it was called the “Catholic Charities Appeal” and donors assumed their gifts went to direct services. The annual appeal pays for administrative support for the most part. I joke with my wife every year that the media advertising for the campaign features a child in a Catholic school uniform every ten seconds when in fact the campaign does not fund tuition assistance. The staff of Catholic Charities of Orlando would be funded, for example, but the medical providers in its clinics—including myself in two locations—are working pro bono.

In the final analysis, most paid employees in the diocese do not draw their regular paychecks from the chancery, but rather, from the parishes and schools where they work. The future for many of them is not consoling. Covid-19 cases are spiking at a record level here in Florida and elsewhere. Word comes this week from the Federal Reserve Board that high unemployment across the country will be with us for a long time, well into next year, and that large infusions of cash from Congress and the Federal Bank will be necessary to keep us from spiraling deeper into recession. Can we protect the jobs in the Church? See the next post in this series in a few days.
 
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How Covid-19 Is Reshaping the American Church-1

6/10/2020

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I am used to seeing parish schools close. Back in the 1970’s, as a college chaplain, I worked in the confines of the Albany, N.Y. diocese which, like many cities in the Rust Belt, was beginning to shed parochial schools. For the post-World War II American Church, closing a Catholic school still carried a good deal of shock value, and this was true in Albany. After several waves of closing angst, the bishop at that time supposedly said to his advisors, “I’m not going to die with every death.” I suspect that is the private mantra of many northern bishops about school and parish closings even to this day.

The closing of a school, when I hear about it in Catholic social media, always saddens me. However, the closing of a Catholic school in the “growing Sunbelt” gets my attention. The closing of a Catholic school in my own diocese is a shocker. It did happen about two weeks ago, in Lakeland, Florida. I remember doing catechetical workshops for the diocese in that facility around 1990, and I have been friends with the present pastor for over thirty years. As he is the church officer who had to make the public announcement to the parish-school community and to the media, he has become [unfairly] the target of some social media trashing, although on the whole the transitioning of students to three other local Catholic schools seems to be progressing as well as can be expected.

The immediate cause of the closing as reported by the Diocese of Orlando Office of Schools is a $500,000 projected shortfall for the coming school year, the result of a decline of 40 student enrollments, coupled with Covid-19 factors and an outstanding mortgage of at least $3 million. That constellation of factors sounds compelling enough to warrant the closing, social media critics notwithstanding. There are bigger takeaways from my local experience, though, that bear significantly upon all Catholics, and particularly those who work for the Church today or did so in the past.

I knew that two schools had closed earlier this spring in the Fall River, Massachusetts, diocese, so this week I checked to see what the national picture might look like. No major publication has catalogued the question nationally, i.e., tallied schools that were pushed over the brink by the financial complications of the Covid-19 pandemic, so the research here is piecemeal and incomplete. But in a truncated search I found the following number of school closings in specific dioceses: Newark, NJ [10], Diocese of Camden, NJ [5], Harrisburg, PA [2], Boston, MA [4], Wilmington, DE [1], Hartford, CN ( [1], Patterson, NJ [1] and Oklahoma City, specifically Lawton, OK [1]. The Pittsburgh and Buffalo Dioceses, among others, are undertaking massive reorganization plans in which all schools will be required to demonstrate fiscal solvency. [A reader notified me of a closing in the Rockville Center, NY, Diocese; it had been slated to close before the virus and this was its last year, but thank you for the information.]
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The Lawton, OK closing is a primer on how things can go bad. The school did have an endowment, the returns from which were providing tuition assistance to students whose family economies were seriously depleted by the virus. But the stock market tumble with the arrival of Covid evidently wiped out much of the endowment. While I did not see evidence that parishes are closing in great numbers, I did find evidence of significant parish staff layoffs even in the few affluent dioceses such as Los Angeles, and even here the vice was growing tighter. The LA Archdiocese advised parishes that loans at interest from the diocese were available to parishes to keep parish personnel but added that this aid could not be extended indefinitely. About 13,000 of this country’s 17,000 parishes applied for the federal Covid 19 employee salary assistance, but this, too, is a stop gap measure of limited direction. Anecdotally from social media I know of many furloughs and outright releases of Catholic lay employees, and closer to home, the director of the Catholic Charities clinic where I work was released.

Covid-19 did not of its own accord cause the wheels of the U.S. Catholic economy to fall off in many places; what it did was give us a clue of how shaky many of our enterprises and business methods truly are. The closing of a school—or a parish, for that matter—usually raises the same battery of questions from members that demonstrate significant gaps in understanding, and as a former pastor I heard these questions over forty years ago. These gaps of understanding can be clustered into two groups: [1] Why doesn’t the diocese save us, and [2] why didn’t we hear about our crisis earlier?

The first question assumes that the typical diocese is wealthy, i.e., flush in liquid reserves to dole out to parishes in regular support or emergency situations. This model of episcopal assistance was common in large urban dioceses, notably New York. Cardinal Spellman [r. 1939-1967]. The Wheeling, WV diocese receives income, for example, from an oil field deeded to the diocese many years ago, a secret revealed to the laity only last year when its bishop fell into disgrace for abusing individuals and diocesan resources. By the time I arrived in Florida in 1978, the practice for new construction of parishes and churches involved assigning a priest to a newly outlined parish territory, along with a tract of land and the mortgage for the land.  Some few dioceses have stout reserves to draw from, but the odds are you do not live in one of them, few as they are. If I had to guess, you have a better chance of living in a diocese that is close to or already in formal bankruptcy. At least 20 of this country’s 185 dioceses have declared bankruptcy, before the virus.

Dioceses may show reserves on their books in some shape or form, but there are many asterisks to note, perhaps the most prominent being the unknown future costs of clergy abuse settlements. That the intensity and the unpredictability of the Corona virus caught so many institutions off guard suggests that there may be an absence of “emergency—break the grass” planning where determining how much reserve is sufficient. [Florida, where our signature theme parks are currently reopening, is currently averaging 1300 new Covid victims per day. Per Newsweek, 50% of states are seeing increases in daily case reports.] The Archdiocese of New York is losing $1 million per week due to closed churches and emergency Catholic Charities services. One more point I learned from the closings in my home diocese of Buffalo is the cost of a church or school no longer in use. A structure no longer used for ministry must still be insured, secured, and meet local safety ordinances until the diocese can be sold or demolished. The real estate value would still show up as an asset.  

This last point is a good counter to those who argue that the Church should sell the “priceless” property of Vatican City and the great churches of Rome to save the world. They are assets, to be sure, but priceless and worthless mean about the same—they are not liquid assets for food banks or even paying the electric bill. In every major church I visited in Rome I received an appeal for financial assistance for urgent structural repair and upkeep. On a lighter note, selling expensive bishops’ mansions where they still exist may be marginally helpful, though the sale would be one-time infusion of cash. My wife and I have eaten with our bishops twice in their home, modest residences without a hint of bling. Selling our bishop's home would not move the needle very much
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Part 2 will follow in a day or two.  
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The Unexpected Sabbatical 4: Corona Give Us More To Think About

4/22/2020

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When I began the segment on “the Unexpected Sabbatical,” I did not grasp its intensity or expanse of time. More is known now about the virus and its impact than we knew six weeks ago, and most of our new information is not of the encouraging kind. Covid-19 is transmitted to others before the carrier experiences symptoms. The statistics show that what was once thought of as a disease of the ill and the aged can strike down young adults in their prime. Forensic examinations show that Corona damages not just the lungs—perhaps permanently—but many other body organs, from the ears to the liver.
 
Nor did I understand the full implications to the country’s economic and security well-being. The United States is currently processing several trillion dollars in checks to most households. This money was not budgeted, so it is either being printed or borrowed. For households, I believe the allotment is $2400 dollars or thereabouts, apparently to help strapped Americans survive for a month. What happens next month? At the current moment, including today’s jobs report, the unemployment rate is between 15% and 20%, approaching the levels of the Great Depression, which began in 1929 and did not end until the United States started militarizing after Pearl Harbor in 1941. Even good news is bad news: The State of New Jersey is hiring anyone who knows anything about COBAL, to repair its state computers. COBAL is an old computer operating system built for large frame computers 60 years ago, which the Garden State still depends upon for significant portions of its state operations. [I suppose that makes the NJ system immune to sophisticated cyber-attacks.]
 
I have been following the reactions to Covid-19 of church workers and catechists on websites devoted to ministry, and there continues to be considerable stress about the traditional springtime sacraments [more appropriately, their indefinite postponement], start-up dates for summer and fall programs, and getting teaching aids to parents at home. Some have reported that they have been furloughed, others have had salaries slashed. Nearly all are working from home and most report owning a responsibility to hold the parish—and their ministries—together. I have seen three major national news outlets address the issue of whether most dioceses can fiscally survive throughout 2020, but I am not seeing the issue raised in the Catholic press--except for the reminders after streamed Masses to use the EFT to support the parish.
 
I know I have run a little far afield from the original purpose of the stream, the idea of our “down time” to enrich our understanding of our faith and our church, a time to question what we honestly believe and what we labor over where “religion” is in our plane of existence. The Corona virus is a normal manifestation in the microscopic word of germs and viruses. What is abnormal is not the microbe but the reactions, non-reactions, and opportunism of the world to which it was carried. One microscopic species has laid bare so many personal and societal sins, ranging from today’s terrible discovery in a New Jersey nursing home to customers grousing and cursing grocery clerks attempting to maintain CDC recommendations to prevent contagion. We are learning about grave insufficiencies in our health care delivery system, the dangerous workplaces in meat processing plants, the desperate needs of safety nets in times of national emergency.
 
We have learned something about our local Catholic communities. Many pastors have gone to extraordinary lengths to provide streaming services and maintain personal outreach. Catholic Charities and individual parishes, which already carry sizeable caseloads, labor overtime when an amazing number of Americans are going hungry. On the other hand, the USCCB has remained mute on governmental, business, and even personal decisions which ought to make educated Catholics very queasy. Nothing has been said about the salaries, work environments, and precarious tenures of employed parish employees, whose treatment across the board has varied considerably from place to place.
 
For our purposes here, how will the Church survive, and what will it look like in a post-Corona world? These are the thoughts to bring into your sabbatical. If the country—or significant parts of it—fall into a depression anywhere near 1929, and we are drifting perilously close particularly if another Corona wave arrives in September of October, the Church and its members will take on a profoundly new relationship with each other. For starters, many parishes would collapse due to inadequate funds and income. 25% of church members would be unemployed, and the other 75% would be supporting family members. About 20 dioceses in the U.S. have filed for bankruptcy before the virus reached American shores.
 
With fewer places to meet [if social gatherings are still permitted as they have been] and a decimated pool of professional religious educators and directors, it may be that the Church here reverts to its first three centuries, to “the domestic church” model where the heads of households take stronger leadership of the daily life of Catholics. One criticism of the “streaming” has been an optic that Catholics cannot pray, learn, and teach without a priest on the set. I do not quite agree, but it does seem to me that a lot of Catholic homes have no Catholic regimen such as times for family prayer, religious resources for on-going Bible and Church study, and one-on-one guidance. It has been a mystery to me for 50 years why CCD teachers, mostly parents, are teaching other parents’ children.
 
If nothing else, the Corona virus might point our sabbaticals to the wisdom of the Catholic tradition for study and reflection. Catholicism functioned—often in secret--during times of persecution and exile. It has ministered through the dozens of plagues it has encountered. 150 years ago, Pope Leo XII spelled out the basis for working folks to organize and negotiate for a living wage. In more recent times the Church has developed a strong body of medical ethics. Four years ago, Pope Francis’ first encyclical, Laudato Si, addressed the inner workings of nature, justice, business, and human dignity. [Summary of encyclical here.] At the time of Laudato Si’s public release, the religious right condemned it as “green” or “socialist” or “papal meddling.” The response of Christ himself calls us to be more than meddlers: “You are the light of the world. You are the salt of the earth.”
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The Unexpected Sabbatical 3: Time To Browse For Books

3/30/2020

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Sabbaticals have a life of their own, meaning that as much as we like to think of them as intellectually organized searches, our passions and interests draw our eyes to a particular color in a large jewel that captivates us to behold it longer and longer. If you take the leisure to look at the literary and artistic jewels of theology, “the study of God,” go where your soul’s enthusiasms take you. Because I wanted to take some graduate courses on my sabbatical, and I was late applying, I ended up with two history courses not of my choosing but which opened my eyes to new realities, particularly a course on Catholic-Episcopal ecumenical ventures prior to Vatican II that sparked in me an interest in interfaith experience, Jesus’ prayer in John’s Gospel that “they all may be one.”
 
Theology is a family of subsets. When you are choosing the kinds of books and other material you would like to pursue, you can do so in the fashion of someone entering a seminary or a master’s program in a major Catholic University. St. Vincent de Paul’s regional seminary has a rich, almost overwhelming curriculum [scroll down to page 52] for seminarians from Florida and South Georgia. If nothing else, viewing a curriculum gives an idea of the large number of choices in the study of theology, choices you might not know you had, such as medical ethics, philosophy, pastoral counseling, sacraments of initiation, etc. When safety permits, visit a Catholic graduate school if you are lucky enough to live near one, just to sniff it out for independent studies, libraries, lectures and other events open to the public, etc.
 
On the other hand, sometimes you just come upon a theology book from any specific subject and you jump right in, like a kid in the bakery snatching the cupcake with the most frosting. A good text in theology [or any other discipline, for that matter] will be so well footnoted with a rich bibliography that you can organically spin off into other related texts that grab your fancy. If you start your sabbatical with Martin Luther: The Man Who Rediscovered God and Changed the World by Eric Metaxas, for example, your curiosity may take you backward into later medieval times and how the Church fell into disarray, or forward toward the Catholic Counter-Reformation and the reform Council of Trent.
 
I would suggest that early in the sabbatical you do go out of your way to touch base with the New Testament, particularly the four Gospels. Vatican II’s primary agenda was a refocusing upon Christ as the full expression of the God who loves us. Every bit of theology written and taught today is impacted by intensive Scripture scholarship. A good measure of your Gospel acumen is your handle on why the four Gospels are different, and what aspect of Christ’s message is emphasized in each Gospel. If you have no experience in college level scripture study, an introduction such as Paulist Press’s Invitation to the Gospels [2002] can be very useful and dependable, or for the more ambitious, Father John Meier’s A Marginal Jew: Rethinking the Historical Jesus. [1991] On the other hand, diving directly into an excellent text and commentary of your favorite Gospel might be more intriguing and get you off on a good start. I used Francis Moloney’s The Gospel of Mark [2002] in the Café Blog a few years ago; the narrative was intriguing scholarship, but he did not include the Gospel text itself. When buying a Scripture book, check to see that the full text is included with the commentary; otherwise, you’ll need your bible on your other knee, which can be cumbersome.
 
So, let’s hit the mall with the touch of a mouse, so to speak, to do a little window shopping. Our first stop is Paulist Press, a primary apostolate of the Paulist Fathers. The Paulists were founded by Father Isaac Hecker in the mid 1800’s and devoted themselves to preaching and publishing in the name of Catholic evangelization. To serve the entire Church, Paulist offers a wide range of publications and products. The Paulist Biblical Commentary is a new reference gem. This is a good publisher to subscribe to its printed catalogue, which I have here next to me. The quarterly catalog via snail-mail offers a better view of Paulist’s best resources. Paulist offers “The Catholic Biblical School Program,” an extended study guide to the full Bible over several years, and reasonably priced.
 
Moving along, we come to Liturgical Press, known from its founding in 1920 as the ‘Collegeville Press.” LP began as a monastery in Minnesota and became one of the first institutions in the United States to study reform of the liturgy; consequently, its publications focus on Liturgy, Scripture, and Parish Life. To find its publications this link proceeds to the book section. LP continues to this day with imaginative energy in scholarship. Its Wisdom Commentary series on books of the Bible draws from feminist theology and experience.
 
Continuing along, Catholic University of America Press, my alma mater, publishes some of the most advanced theological works available in English. If you think you know everything, browsing its spring catalogue will bring you back to earth. In my years there, I was more frequently found in the Rathskeller than with these volumes of advanced erudition. However, I may purchase one new offering in this spring’s catalogue, A Guide to Formation Advising for Seminarians [p. 12]. I would like to see how today’s seminarians are counseled and evaluated compared to my seminary experiences of a half-century ago. [Simple answer: we weren't.]
 
Returning home and looking at the books on my desk at this moment, they were published by a wide variety of other universities and firms, including Yale University Press, Eerdmans, ​Orbis, and W.W. Norton, to cite several. Some of the best treatments of things Catholic have come from outside the world of Catholic publishing; I have included some secular samples including Eerdmans’s and Norton as examples. Yale's Divinity School is world famous. Nearly all publishers mentioned in today’s post will send you free updates on books in your field[s] of interest that are just going on the market--even if you don't buy, you can stay connected to trends in religious academia.
 
I admit that the price of books can be problematic. There are a few things you can do to reduce the price. When I receive a notice for a book that I need for the Café posts or my own interests, I check with Amazon to see how the publisher’s price compares with Amazon’s. Usually, Jeff Bezos has it for a few dollars cheaper and Amazon Prime can usually overnight the purchase. Often, though not always, a sought after book comes in multiple formats, too. I prefer paperback because, among other things, I mark up books I use. Kindle is often cheaper than hardcover or paperback. Amazon also networks with many small local bookstores who can sell the same book, used, at considerable savings. This is particularly true with older texts. That said, I do have qualms of conscience about buying from "big box" bookstores rather than Catholic publishers directly. 
 
Just one man’s opinion, but if you are reading a text of particular helpfulness to yourself and/or your work, you might do better with hardcover or paperback. It is probably a book you will refer to down the road, and you may want to mark it up and make notes. In doing the Café blog, I learned quickly that it is easier to retrieve a book quote from a shelf than to try to find it in my Kindle app.
 
Feel free to contact me with any questions. The next post will be in the book review stream; the next sabbatical post will be around Wednesday or Thursday.
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The Unexpected Sabbatical 2: Looking For Love In All The Right Places

3/25/2020

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What I am laying out here is a blueprint, a utopian one at that, for anyone who finds themselves in home restraint due to the Corona virus or any other reason. I fully understand that you have other pressing concerns in your life, so take from these posts what would help you maintain your sabbatical as best you are able. If I can personally assist anyone, feel free to reach me at tjburns@cfl.rr.com
 
Given what I have seen over years of counseling, many professionals cannot do their best work or take adequate care of themselves in every sense because “too many things get in the way,” a softer way of saying “I believe I am not in control of my own life.” I have a code I use for my own private session notes, CTC, or living from “crisis to crisis.” CTC is a prime factor in failing to pray, exercise, prepare healthy meals, and maintain healthy relationships. A sabbatical provides the leisure to chart each of these factors into regular rituals of daily living.
 
I have long believed that successful people have a passion for their field, and this is no less true in Catholic life and ministry. Moreover, passion for union of God is the ultimate motivator of life. Theology is literally the study of God, or as others have put it, “faith seeking understanding.” Our own kiddie catechisms of years ago described our purpose on earth as knowing, loving, and serving God in this life, and living with Him in the next. A sabbatical is down time for personal scrutiny, determining who we are and what we are doing. Never be embarrassed to admit that your idealism in search of God has flagged, that one’s religious life has gone to the dogs, that ministry and catechesis have become repetitive duties for a surviving paycheck.
 
If this is what you discover in the early days of your sabbatical meditations, do not be afraid. There is a lot of talk about people leaving the Church and abandoning the sacraments, and probably losing heart in God. But the onus always seems to fall on the departing. What about our Church as a whole? We are a divided Church, a sinful Church, in many respects. Division is never a thing of beauty, and certainly not an object of admiration. Despite the public labors of a most unusual pope, there is dissatisfaction with him because he does not do everything “by the book.” Currently, at least in the United States, the institutional Church preoccupation has been getting the “correct answers” out to the remaining faithful. I actually saw a blog post from a catechist asking how to explain to a little boy the difference between “love” and “lust” as he prepares for his first confession in second grade.
 
Yes, it may be that you’ve lost the love you once cherished, but I would wager that the object of your love is much obscured in the traditional places we have been taught to look. “Knowing, loving, and serving God.” We who are or have been married can easily apply knowing, loving, and serving with our spouses. It is a curious thing that the word “knowing” as applied to God is a synonym for sexual encounter in the Bible. Think to the early stages of a wholesome love affair—every aspect so consuming. But sustaining this love requires constant togetherness. Kenny Rogers, the popular singer who died this weekend, admitted to an interviewer that his four marriages all failed because he put business first.
 
Catechetics makes the same mistakes. Just yesterday I came upon a post on a religious education site: “Favorite tips and tricks for teaching children the procedure for First Reconciliation. We do practice Reconciliation twice, have them put the parts of reconciliation in order, watch the Brother Francis "Forgiven" video but every year Father tells me the kids don't know what they were doing.” What we have here is a sacrament of anxiety, not healing. Business before beauty.
 
Because God is “totally other,” all talk of God is analogy, or as Webster puts it, “a comparison of two otherwise unlike things based on resemblance of a particular aspect.” The historical Jesus himself is the only perfect theological statement: “Phillip, he who sees me sees him who sent me.” By implication Jesus, himself human, is defining the divine presence in each of us, putting us in that restless place where nothing makes us perfectly happy except communion with the God who made us and loves us. Good theology is the language of loving effort.
 
The study of theology brings wisdom to its serious students. I am grateful to the publication Lay Witness for this quote: “Plato once remarked that if wisdom were visible, the whole world would fall madly in love with it. Although wisdom is not visible, beauty is. And this is why, for Plato and many other philosophers, in loving beauty, people are moving in the direction of wisdom. The important implication here is that we human beings simply cannot do without beauty. The Russian existentialist philosopher Nikolai Berdyaev once said, "Beauty will save the world."
 
As to setting sabbatical goals, the best I can offer is finding the love and beauty of God in your life and/or ministerial circumstances, setting out on paths of those who have searched for divine beauty before us and who do so successfully today. I will put some road markers up in the next few posts, and at some point, describe my own 6-month sabbatical in 1993 with its highs and lows. We can walk through a library of Catholic study that may prove helpful, but the nice thing about a sabbatical is your command of the pace and the menu. In his love, God will prompt you to your heart’s longing.  
 
Next post: Thursday, some practical housekeeping. 
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The Unexpected Sabbatical 1: A Radical Idea That Makes Sense

3/23/2020

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Even the Black Plague [1347-1352] came to an end, awful as it was, and I believe that as a Church we shall go back to work, too, at some future time when it is safe to do so. I don’t think it will be soon, though, and I don’t think there will be a “normalcy day” where everyone runs from the shelter of home into the public marketplace and starts engaging with the living ministers of the church again. Were I a pastor today, I would tell my hard-working staff and volunteers to go home on a [paid] sabbatical. On second thought, I would recommend a sabbatical to every adult Catholic facing the question of what to do with enforced time off.
 
Webster’s defines a sabbatical as “a leave often with pay granted usually every seventh year (as to a college professor) for rest, travel, or research.” This is a period when professionals refresh their minds and commitments to their fields, read the insights of colleagues, perhaps take a course of their choice, and even create some contribution to their field. [College professors write their books on sabbaticals.] A sabbatical is a time to break free of the shackles of the phone and its evil partners, absent one’s self from the employment environment, and live by one’s own schedule. It is customary to submit a plan of study and goals to the employer and make a private or public summary of what one has researched during the sabbatical, which is a reasonable requirement.
 
I am struck by the inclusion of “rest” in Webster’s definition of sabbatical, because most professionals I encounter in counseling appear to be in good need of it. For many years I was a United Health Care Employee Assistance Provider for, among other populations, everyone on my diocese’s health insurance plan. The term “burnout” does not adequately describe the range of job-related symptoms presented by Catholic ministers, including priests. I don’t need to describe each stress in detail, but in the past few weeks I have seen many blogsites with posts from catechists who are literally frantic that they can’t get materials for sudden religious education homeschooling demands brought about by Corona closings. Another poster was deeply grieved that there were no hours for confession in her church; an elementary knowledge of Penance and Canon Law would have calmed her. Before World War II Saint Maximilian Kolbe wrote: "Whoever can, should receive the Sacrament of Penance.  Whoever cannot, because of prohibiting circumstances, should cleanse his soul by acts of perfect contrition: i.e., the sorrow of a loving child who does not consider so much the pain or reward as he does the pardon from his father and mother to whom he has brought displeasure."
 
Worry is an enemy of spirituality and a roadblock to effective ministry. Consider this: You can’t take responsibility for a pandemic, nor can you take responsibility that your diocese or parish does not provide on-line resources for you to tap immediately for the next several months. Some years ago, my own pastor picked up the bill for every parishioner to access Formed, the NETFLIX of family faith formation. So, relax. It is a subtle form of narcissism to believe that the Church cannot survive without your 24/7 helicopter ministerial surveillance. Let the people who get paid to supervise you take the responsibility.
 
What the Church will need come next fall is a cadre of renewed and rested ministers, enriched by time to pray, healthier from time to exercise and eat nutritious home cooked diets, better qualified for ministry by virtue of a challenging study of theology. In other words, let’s consider the model of Church sabbatical, ministers and laity alike. The days holed up at home may take on a refreshing hue if you think of them as that opportunity to escape into the various branches of religious experience and theology, places you've always wanted to go.
 
Tomorrow I will provide an overview of how to construct your personal sabbatical plan, and on Wednesday I will connect you with books from every corner of the theological world. The Café is one place that will remain open and with you as we together transverse this unexpected sabbatical.  
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The Mental Health Component of Evangelization

1/29/2020

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While at sea earlier this month, I had the opportunity to read cover to cover Lori Gottlieb’s best seller, Maybe You Should Talk to Someone: A Therapist, Her Therapist, and Our Lives Revealed [2019]. Gottlieb had written extensively before; this book was well-reviewed by The New York Times, and I was in the mood to study how other therapists were addressing what I see in my current practices. All of us who work with the public in any meaningful way—and that certainly includes church ministers—can fall into repetitious and unproductive “routines” or slip into that “one-size-fits-all solution” for everyone that life brings into our ambit.
 
In parish settings a staff will encounter assistance of many kinds, such as engaged couples seeking marriage, annulments, funerals, religious education and RCIA families, counseling and/or confession. It is possible, almost inescapable, to get fixated on the formalities, necessary as they may be, such as gathering necessary documents for youthful sacraments or walking through the various stages of an annulment. Some pastors are notorious for fixating on results, e.g., the numbers of candidates in the RCIA program or tallies of registrations for religious education programs. The pressure percolates down to parish staff/ministers, most of whom were attracted to Church ministry to engage souls into the communal life of Christ’s church and would probably want time to do more face-to-face personal evangelizing and less filing and traffic directing. If it is any comfort, therapists have similar paper pressures and depend upon a variety of software programs like Therapy Notes, which I used in my private practice. One of TN’s features is an automatic email and/or phone system that reminds patients of appointments, depending on how much you want to pay.
 
The point of Gottlieb’s self-revelations and lengthy case studies is the demonstration of the depths of human experience and suffering, and I have to say this is one of the best mental health reads for the general public since Listening to Prozac in 1993. Gottlieb takes us through a year with six different patients [and her own psychotherapy] so the slow process of therapeutic change can be observed and understood. At the heart of each patient’s presenting collections of symptoms—depression, grief, narcissism, marital distress—is a misunderstanding of the self. We all carry a life script within us [i.e., who we think we are], and what usually brings a patient to “talk to someone” is the life script jumping the tracks—by trauma, by business or career failure, by a failed relationship, by substance abuse—the list is endless. But as Gottlieb wisely observes, a crippling blow from the past also means a painful loss of the personal future one has crafted through life. If you think about it, much of Church work is about life change, bad and good.  
 
I hear from many religious education directors and personnel how parents present children out of the blue for baptism, first confession, first communion, confirmation. Then, after the rites, those young people become invisible again. Pastors get requests from couples to witness the renewal of their wedding vows, not at the usual 25th or 50th anniversary markers, but at odd anniversary years such as seven years or thirty-four years. The question we ought to ask—ourselves—is why now? What flags a Catholic mother to herd her children into the DRE’s office, breathless, baptism certificates in hand, to “regularize their standing in the Church?” The bureaucrat in us rejoices with the impression that a lukewarm family is back in the fold, a numerical success. Don’t fall into the trap of failing to consider why this family has chosen to make this move now. Research into the subject of individuals leaving the Church has found that some of those leaving the church do so because they have never felt personally engaged in the church, the liturgy and its members. At some level, perhaps even microscopic, the folks who engage us want to be a part of us. Regard them as brothers and sisters.
 
I am not advocating that we turn pastoral work into Freudian psychotherapy. But I do believe that church life and ministry must be personal and supportive, particularly the structured and routine programs. Take the example of the mother with the children who need all their youthful sacraments. I might ask what her hopes were for the sacramental life of her children. She might say, “I don’t want them to go to hell.” A little tardy, perhaps, but a good reason, nonetheless. My response; “you’re a good mother to do this.” “Avoiding hell” is her vocabulary for salvation. When one is bound to the textbook language of catechetic textbooks, one misses the sincerely stated if unconventional language of a mother’s love for her children. Some church ministers use the occasion to scold the parent or quote the catechism. And we wonder why we lose them.
 
This mother’s encounter with the church leads to two roads: we would like to see her and her children with us after the initiation sacraments. And, if we apply the “why now?” rule, what is the story behind a mother--who clearly believes the doctrine of hell--bringing her children, perhaps as old as 14, to the saving waters of Baptism now? There is more to this story. I might comment off the cuff that with her children she must have a busy life. It is a hypothesis, of course, but an innocent one. The responses can be varied and quite revelatory. [1] Some people say thank you. [2] Some defer the compliment with self-deprecation on the grounds that parenting is a duty that doesn’t deserve pats on the back. [3] Some will say, in a variety of ways, that the key people in their lives don’t realize how hard it is to be a good mother—almost always the spouse and/or the doting mother-in-law. [4] Some suffer from a chronic form of depression or dysthymia, and the effort of parenting, let alone reaching out to the church, is Herculean.
 
But I need a separate category for those carrying pain from the Church. There is often generic and/or specific predisposition of anger among those who approach the Church—and this number is dwarfed by those who stopped coming altogether. It is a good idea to approach all pastoral engagements with the idea that this may be the last chance to restore faith in the institution, and the last gasp of hope for a Catholic reaching out. Besides the major “institutional hurts” of clergy abuse and an assortment of complex disciplinary hurdles, a large number of respondents to pollsters—and clients in my offices—report difficult encounters simply “doing business with the Church” in some period of time in their personal history.
 
But going back to the example of the mother and children, I might say to the mother that “our late afternoon hours for religious education might be inconvenient for a family,” particularly a single-parent family. I might also get the sense that this mother is socially isolated and might enjoy a church relationship that brings her an oasis of solace in her busy world. In that case, I would ask her if she would like someone [preferably another mother or grandmother] to stop in with a Starbuck’s from time to time and bring her material and assistance in catechizing her own children. Conversion here is built upon acceptance, upon hearing the needs of those who seek God’s grace, even in circuitous routes.
 
To borrow from St. Thomas Aquinas’s principle that nature builds on grace and grace builds on nature, psychology listens to grace, but lived grace is reinforced by the principles of psychodynamics. The key to healing in a relationship, as Carl Rogers famously put it, is “unconditional positive regard.” 
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